Just Timepass...

Wow, nice one... 2 + 1/2 posts in one day, now THAT's SOMETHING...

QUEEN

Just saw the movie QUEEN and loved it. The movie revolved around Rani (queen) the protagonist is a typical Indian middle class punjabi girl who is preparing for her wedding with her love Vijay who decides to cancel the marriage just 3 days before the wedding.

Taken aback and shattered she decides to not giving up on her dream of seeing another country and leaves for Paris on her honeymoon alone. There she meets Vijayalakshmi (Lisa Hayden) a free spirited waitress at the hotel she's staying in who also has a son with her boyfriend and befriends her, she is exposed to a whole new world where you can express what you feel, do what you want, be what you want to be without any judgement from anyone. This is where her journey to finding herself, her voice starts.

From there she leaves for Amsterdam and goes to a Backpacker hostel where booking is made for her by vijayalakshmi. There she comes to know that she has to share a room with 3 boys. Initially hesitant at first she decides to go for it. What follows is the most amazing example of friendship between 4 people from different parts of the world.

Her journey to find herself, to get her voice back is nicely portrayed with an unconventional and the most happening ending for me.

Yes, this is in many ways a true story and holds true for all of us in some way or the other. It's not just Rani's journey that's being potrayed, it's our journey. We don't and we shouldn't feel bad or blame ourselves for someone else's mistake.

Being a girl, a woman is our pride not our weakness. So its fine to be me, to accept me as i am and live my dream. That's what the film tells us, and i completely agree with it.

We don't need to change ourselves for anyone, but change our self if and when required for improvement not anything else and be completely acceptable of ourselves and our strengths and weaknesses, at the same time try to strive and improve where needed.

Everyone of us is a QUEEN, and we need to find that queen within us ourselves.

 Kudos to the director Vikas Bahl and the rest of the cast and crew for such an amazing film.

COLLECTIVE MENTALITY vs MORALS

I have been having a good time lately, thanks to the job i have been enjoying immensely.  Being a trainer that too a Language trainer is not a easy task but its all worth it nevertheless.

I have started developing some political views or rather started being more politically aware as opposed to before.

I think i had mentioned in one of my last blogs something about being a responsible citizen/netizen, the reason why i am bringing this up is because just yesterday i saw an example of irresponsible citizen.

After office hours i was out shopping with my colleague/friend on FC Road, the hub of collegians and all things happening. Had a yummy special mix dry fruit kulfi and was hanging around while she was busy looking at some stuff.

Naturally i didn't want to throw the stick off on the road and was looking for proper disposal when i asked the shopkeeper of the shop we were at for a bin to which he nicely replied that i could throw the stick off on the road where the two wheeler's (scooter's) were parked. I just looked at him saying WHAT and he casually goes on to reply that "how to save some money its better to ask the maid to throw the trash on road rather than pay the sweeper to have it properly disposed." I just went on looking at him, not believing my ears and he just continues to say "Yeh rastaa hi humara kachre ka dabaa hai" (this road here is our dustbin). To which i sarcastically replied "yes why not, continue to make it dirty" and the nerve of him, he was ready to defend himself had i pursued the matter but chose not to.

I can't get this incident out of my mind. To most of you this might be a small matter, a trivial thing but for me getting a closer look on this collective psyche of my people was an eye opener.

There have been many programs, campaign's of awareness one of which includes Aamir Khan's Satyamev Jayate, which is an absolutely outstanding take and views on the nitty gritty of the country, which have raised awareness to some extent.

But all this is futile if people just want to go on the way they want, treating everyone and our beloved country as trash for which govt employees and resources are available to make do with it.

We all want change but choose nothing to do about it. If another does something we try to drag them down. Why this psyche?

Are there no morals in people even for something as small or big as this?? We say we were once a great nation and now nothing can be done to achieve it, but what if everyone of us strive to be great not in money or just our jobs but in our individual duties towards our city, our nation as well.

While in school we are told about our Fundamental Rights and Duties as a citizen, out of which we just retain our Fundamental Rights doing away with our Duties because maybe someone somewhere is there to fulfill that.

Collectively that's our perception/psyche/view. But there is no one anywhere if we have our Rights we have our Duties as well which is only our responsibility as a citizen. If we want something we must have the balls to work for it, towards it.

So in essence if we want our Country to be great we have to work for it, together, as the people of this Great Nation, where no one's common or ordinary we all are uncommon, extraordinary more than we ourselves realize.

It's not just the RIGHT Govt or Candidate which we need to Vote For, its also about bringing the RIGHT change in our Thoughts/ views/ psyche as an individual, as a citizen of OUR GREAT NATION.

Let me be the change i want to see in my Country.

TO BE IS TO HOPE...

So, had an almost fight with my brother, as he's not very happy with my choice of study center. But, i held my ground and kind of let him know that i was going to stick with my decision, no matter what the result. I don't think he liked it very much, i mean i know he loves me, wants to protect me and wants the best for me.

But my dear brother, i wish i could say it upfront so that you know and you could understand, that i love you, respect you, believe in you with all my heart, i have always looked up to you, looked at you for suggestions and advice's whenever i have needed one. But that's the thing, i have always been dependent on you or other loved ones to show me the right way, i have never chosen one. I have always depended on you all to tell me the difference between right and wrong, always left the most crucial decisions on you all so that i can be comfortable. This has got to change now, i have to stand up for my own good and fight for it if i need to, and this can only be done once i learn to get uncomfortable and make decisions for myself, take charge of myself.

I have blindly trusted my loved ones around me and always doubted myself, for once, i have to blindly trust myself so that i can gain the confidence i need, the lesson that i need. I hope and pray that no matter what everything turns out for the best.

My dear brother, being me, its always difficult to say it out loud what i am feeling, hence this post dedicated to you, is to let you know how much i love and respect you, how much i don't want to ever let you down, but for my sake do understand, that i need to do this, to have something of my own, decided by me, executed and implemented by me.

Its time to change, its time to stand up, to be me, and for that i have get out of that "too comfortable zone" and be uncomfortable, to make the decisions that i need to and go through with it. Not to mention that i realize that this is a three part courage and one part fool decision, but that's what life requires of us at times.

One thing i know is that no matter what today is, tomorrow will be better. And one thing that i will always have is, to thank god is for such wonderful family, extended family and friends without whom i wouldn't be here today. So, THANK YOU BABA, LOVE YOU.

Who Am I ??

So, i know that its been quite some time since i have visited let alone updated this space, but better late than never. I was just reading my previous posts and felt like a totally different person has written it, LITERALLY.
I wont lie but the reason for me not visiting and updating the blog is because of late i have been feeling lost completely, not knowing what to do with my life and even if i know what i want to do, i dont know the way to get there. So, i joined these PD classes as in personality development to have some clarity along with business english to polish myself a bit more.
Anyway, coming to the point my lecturer asked me to look in the mirror and ask myself WHO AM I, hence, the title. The purpose is to say or write down what i see in the mirror. He asked me to write down pointers and instead when i sat down to think about it, i wrote a 3 page essay on the title. So, here it is for you guys to read and for me to judge, i hope it helps you as much as it helps me.

WHO AM I??

When i see in the mirror i see a pretty ( not stunningly beautiful, i agree) face, good chocolaty brown eyes, a good figure (still working towards a nice one) and a person so different from someone 10 years back.
But how did i come to be here, when there was a time that for me i was the ugliest person on the face of god's green earth.
Is my face pretty because of some beauty product, but i don't use any. My skincare routine consists of a face cream and wash or some home remedies, that's about it. They surely don't make you like Deepika Padukone. The eyes, how did they come to be so good & reflect me as i have always wanted when all they were once was a disadvantage because of the colour or not the right shape or like the then Aishwarya Rai.
No, this surely can't be the work of any skincare product i know or the lasik operation i got done.
It's the journey through the years that's changed me, the various experiences though not huge but big enough for me. The little miracles within myself which i have witnessed everyday by the hand of God, those small little happenings that changed me & made me what i am today.
So today when i look in a mirror i see a totally narcissistic person or a caterpillar who was cocooned in a web of negativity to this butterfly who blossomed and came out to be this positive person, a person who wants to live and experience life to the fullest and not because she was dropped here and now has no other option. I want to be FREE. I want to be Me to my BEST.
Yes, the eyes still reflect some of the incompleteness, uselessness that i feel but they also reflect the Belief, the Faith i have in my BABA through which i believe that this all will pass, i will get a way and will travel it, i just need to be open to opportunities and grab them.
So to summarize if you ask who am i, my  answer will be: Yes, i am a daughter, a sister, a student, a friend, a responsible citizen but most of all i am a person who isn't afraid to dream wonderful dream, to have hopes for herself, to believe in a better and a much greater future instore for her, and who believes and has immense faith that when the time comes those hopes, dreams, belief's will be fulfilled, she just has to keep going on the path, the journey in the end will be PAISA WASOOL fulltoo, no matter what people around her or the society says.

THAT'S JUST ME AND WHAT I AM, SO BETTER LIVE WITH IT.

Life as a Citizen...

We are aware that as citizens of a country we have certain duties & responsibilities which we should fulfil but how often do we do that??...

I mean come to think of it for a slightest error or misjudgement we happily put the blame on our govt & leave out any last traces of conscious thinking or taking of responsibilities in us.

I am not perfect & i do not say that i have not made errors in judgement. Just the other day there was news of increase in prices of diesel & the elimination of subsidiary 7th LPG cylinder onwards, what did i do??... Well the worst thing i could do was vent it all out on social media.

Great isn’t it without knowledge or research why it’s been done i just vent it, how very responsible of me *rolls eyes*. I mean if as citizens we certain duties or responsibilities the same goes for being netizens, right!!!

Sure there aren’t rules or constitutions laid out of for it but every rule or constitution depends on conscious thinking. And that is why i am writing this piece today so as to APOLOGISE for my inability for responsible networking.

As i discussed the same with my sister & she educated me on certain facets of the price hike ( as we tend to see on only 1 side of a situation) i realised that we all are somehow responsible for this.

Resources here are being underutilised because of some corrupt leader’s who fail to report or actually take some action for the under privileged, but we as citizens don’t care for the rules & regulations laid down for us as well.

It’s not always the govt, right!!! We as people should fulfil some responsibilities too.

I mean common as it’s very rightly said “ek haath se taali nahi bajti”, we have certain responsibilities towards our country & Mother Nature as well. I know that we all can’t afford to do something big but we can always start small. For example, we can start by not littering our society/bldg, the street, the city we live in. We can always try and do responsible networking. First know the cause of a decision then react.

As my dear sister rightly pointed out “ i hate the word common man. No man is common; every one of them is special”. I tend to agree with her that everyone of us is special, maybe we cannot bring by major changes as there many other people there for that but we can always start by bringing minor changes in us, our lives, after all “charity begins at home”.

So enjoy your lives as responsible citizens/netizens & take care.

Ciao.

Changing times...

I  have been thinking alot what to write or what not...

Just that this past year has been physically and emotionally moving, leaving your home of 24 yrs and leaving behind friends memories is not someone anyday can imagine would happen.

But yes change does happen whether we want it or not it comes, what we make of it, if we accept it or not is totally up to us...

Yes its been hard i gotta say, our move from DUBAI to Pune, freaking PUNE, INDIA...

And no its not that easy i mean come on there is a lot of comparison between everything, the people, the way of life and of course all the political n well other distinctly indian probs going on, you kinda miss the way of life back there...

There is a lot of debate n all but yes if u believe n atleast try everything will be fine eventually.

And now we are still adjusting but we have managed to build a life and still building it also enjoying every moment of it...

P.S: watching Supernatural 7 all the while now so please do excuse me for not so much of a good ending ;)... Ta...